Thursday, July 27, 2017

Decisions ~ Decisions

It's been a wonderful ten years of blogging. I began back there in 2007, a year before I married John. 

My grandsons were only 18 months old and six months old respectively.

I was younger, thinner, and far more attractive. Ha! I even wrote better then. 



Now it's a year beyond John's passing and so this blog has come full circle. You know where I'm going with this... I don't know when or even if I'll return to blogging, but this blog is old and so difficult to maintain; it's lumbering along like the dinosaur that it is. Besides, I've had more than my say; I have been so blessed. 

Last year, after John passed away, I felt that I would have to let the blog go because I was having trouble breathing without writing, too. I am glad that I carried on. I found that my blogging buddies were so very supportive and helpful...my own personal gathering of prayer warriors. Thank you to each and every one who has visited through the years. I could never understand why, but I am so glad that you did.

I don't believe in goodbyes so I will say so long for now.







54 comments:

  1. Although we've never met in person, you mean very much to me through your blog. I hope it will only be a long rest. But if this is your last post, I wish you everything good in your future life.

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  2. Your dry sense of humour and chatty rapport will be missed. So long for now Vee I sincerely hope you will be back. Take care.

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  3. Oh no, Vee, please say it isn't so! However, I do truly understand, and since I don't like goodbyes, either, I know where to find you, and I am thankful for our friendship. Take care, my friend! xo

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  4. Dear Vee,
    It has been a pleasure to have gotten to know you through your blog. I believe I have been following along for most of those ten years as I do recall your announcement of marrying John. I am having trouble believing your grandsons were so little. Time is flying by anymore at a dizzying pace.
    When I think of the blogging world without your excellent and entertaining posts... well that's hard to imagine (she says with a lump in her throat:). Rather than think that way I am richly blessed to have made your acquaintance here. You have such a wonderful way with words. Through the years I have not only enjoyed your posts, but also your comments on my blog as well as others. To me it seems like you always know just what to say and how to say it.
    Thank you so very much for giving ten years of yourself here on your blog. I don't think for one minute that it's been lumbering along like a dinosaur. Ha! Oh, your humor is another thing that I have enjoyed so much here.
    All of this to say, Happy 10 year Blogiversary to you. I can certainly understand your decision to say "so long" at this time. I will miss you and am rather selfishly hoping that you might pop in from time to time.
    Wishing you good health and happiness in the coming years.
    So long for now. XOXO

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  5. Vee, I will miss you and your blog. I know you must need to take a break. I hope you will be back, when you feel like you can. Sending you hugs.
    Penny

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  6. You simply must find yourself again Vee...the most marvelous sense of humor and delightful stories of everyday living...perhaps a short respite...is all that is needed...I simply would be so unhappy not to read your blog....you add so much spice to others...

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  7. (I think my comment just disappeared from the screen before I could post it!) Happy 10th blogiversary, Vee. I'm glad you felt supported by your blogging buddies through your initial loss and grief. Like everyone else, I don't want to see you go. Maybe you just need a break? Or to post just once a month? Or ... But I don't want to be selfish, so I'll just wish you all the best and hope you'll add me to a list of people you'll notify should you post again, even sporadically. Hugs.

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  8. Oh no!!! I have tears to think that your sweet posts will not be appearing in my blog feed. Even though we have never met, you have become a dear friend and always have the best comments. I know it's been so very hard for you of late and I hope you will find some rest and some day again find the urge to post. I have to admit that I too am having a difficult time being inspired - especially these dreary rainy days with a nasty virus hanging on since mid May! I wish you all the best, happiness and blessings as you enjoy the rest of your summer and beyond. Love you Vee. Huge hugs....

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  9. Although I rarely (if ever) post a comment here I wanted to stop in and say I truly understand when it's time to say goodbye....I did the same thing last December to my 9 year old blog. Blogging just isn't what it used to be when I (and you) first started....too commercialized for my taste! I also have enjoyed your blog over the years and wish you only the best in the future.

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  10. Say it isn't so, dear Vee!! I enjoy your writing so much and will have a hole in my week if I don't hear from you. That sounds selfish on my part and selfish I'll be. It has been a pleasure getting to know you, my friend. Please check in every now and then, Pretty please! God Bless You. XOXO ♥

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  11. So sad to see you go. I hope you'll be back someday. I came back after a long rest.
    See you on Instagram.
    Smiles,
    Carol

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    1. Thanks, Carol. I am waiting a bit on Instagram. I truly am not a fan of that medium. I may just keep my foot in the door to snoop on the rest of you!

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  12. I am not saying goodbye to you either. I have been a blog friend of yours for only a short time, but have enjoyed each and every minute of it. You have become a friend even though we have never met in person. I hope you have a wonderful life and I completely understand about your decision not to blog anymore. So many of by blog friends are stopping. I will miss you and hope you will stop by my blog now and then and say hi.

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  13. Dear Vee, you're going to be missed. But, I understand the need to stop blogging for a season. Hopefully it will be just that...a season...and then you'll be back rested up and ready to go again. Many of my other blog friends have just stopped without a word, so I'm happy you let us know of your decision. Be happy and be well, my friend.
    Love, Cheryl

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  14. I understand! Blogging takes more mental energy than non-bloggers realize. Sometimes I feel like I've said everything there is to say, too, then God pops something into my brain. Especially on Sundays. Let's keep up through emails, my friend.

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  15. I think about stopping sometimes but I'm not there yet. I hope that maybe you would update from time to time. You will be missed but I understand where you are coming from. I give too much time to my computer and not enough time living my life to the fullest.
    ((Hugs))

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  16. My heart sank as I read the first words of your post, knowing where it was headed. It seems many of us began blogging 10 years ago. I can't remember when I discovered your blog, but your words have made me laugh, cry, think, and pray. How I, along with many others, will miss seeing "A Haven for Vee" pop up in my reader.
    I hope that you will return from time to time to fill us in on how things are going. And perhaps we can keep in touch by email. I'm just not at all certain about Instagram.
    Hugs and may God fill you with his love to pour out on others, in different ways, as you've done with your blogging.

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  17. I just have to say "ditto" to every single comment above. The Land of Blog will not be the same without you in it. Yes, sure I understand that you must do what your heart is telling you to do....and I would love a "visit" from you every now and then. Congratulations on your ten years of blogging and you know that it goes without saying that we ALL will welcome you back with open arms when the time is right. Notice I said "when" :D Hugs and prayers going out you as we speak!♥♥♥

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  18. WOW. 10 years. That is a long time. I respect your decision but also HATE IT. You need not say anything - just blog when the mood strikes you - and it will because you are a fine writer! So why am I sitting here reading your post with tears running down my cheeks. I hate goodbyes. Hope you change your mind. You are a dear dear blogging friend.

    Love you, Vee. Prayers for you always. Hugs. ♥

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  19. Such a gift your blog has been...trying to imagine how less my life would be without my suddenly discovered "cousin" plus your leading the way for me into the blessings and trials of elder care.
    When life piles on trials that can not be spoken of I think it is natural to be Job-ish and not speak for a bit.
    I'll be praying and in touch.

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  20. Vee, I remember coming soon after I started blogging. I don't know how I found you but I'm so glad I did. I even read back to the beginning because I loved how you said what you said. Maybe at some point you will want to share something with all of us again. I fully understand the need for you to step back. When I stopped daily blogging it was a relief not to feel like readers were depending on me. Now I just record what has happened in the month for the sake of keeping a journal. Who knows if my family will ever look back on it like I look back at my Mom's journals for important dates.. etc.. Hugs to you my friend... I'll miss you.

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  21. 10 years....for you and for me. You were one of my first blogging friends and I have so enjoyed 'traveling with you' this past decade. Where has the time gone? How special it was to meet up with you four years ago...to have lunch with you and John and to visit with you in your 'haven'! You will be missed in blogdom. But just so you know, I still plan to keep in touch! Hugs and prayers. :)

    PS Elmer will miss you here as well. He loved to read your posts (and also your comments)!

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  22. I'm sad to read this but certainly understand. Please keep your blog up so we can re-visit posts and you can remember whose turn it is for Thanksgiving dinner. I'm so happy to have met you and John personally, which wouldn't have happened except through blogging. Thankfully, we live in the same state so a face to face meeting IS possible again. Love you my friend. ~ Abby

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  23. This was the post I was hoping would not get posted! Oh Vee, please don't leave forever, we will miss your sense of humor, stories of the grands, happenings in your life - how well you've handled the sad parts - and made us giggle at the funny parts. . . . . .and of course your always kind, generous, often cut to the chase comments.

    As others are saying, perhaps a long, relaxing break to clear your head and allow more time for Ms. Vee will then find you feeling that you have to write and share those words - you are so good at that. Meanwhile my dear, do take good care of yourself and know that you have brought 10 years of much joy to your many blogging friends. . . . . . and that we'll be missing you and hoping you will pop up again some day.

    Huge hugs - Mary

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  24. I'm so sorry to hear this, but considering I haven't been blogging either, I truly understand. I will miss reading your blog and wish you many blessings Vee!

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  25. Hi, me again...I realized after reading your posts for much of the time I've been blogging (just over 4 years) that I surely missed a lot of yours, even though I did follow some of your links back to a few older posts. The more I thought about it, especially knowing that you may be leaving blogdom for good ( I hope not), I wanted to see more. I wanted to go back and read about how you and John came to be, etc., etc. Well, I have just spent the best part of this afternoon doing just that, often blinking back tears. I just finished reading "This is the Man" and all of the links that were attached to that post. What a beautiful love story it is. I realize what I read today is only a drop in the bucket and I do hope that you leave your blog up so I can visit again. ♥

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  26. Dearest Vee,

    I will miss your blog posts and the inspiration they give me (especially the beautiful headers).

    I understand about stopping the blogging. I have debated about that very thing oh-so-often since the first week I began blogging in February 2009.

    Do remember that it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind, so if you should, I'll be glad to see you in my In Box.

    I look forward to meeting you in person one day in the very physical Presence of our Lord, for I feel certain you will be there!!

    Love, Barb

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  27. I'm not going to pretend here. I read this post this morning and hoped that I had imagined it or that you would change it during the day. Maybe I would come back and you would say you are going to start doing the notecard party again or have a giveaway to celebrate. It's not too late. You can do that now. I'll help you. Because I'm just not sure how much fun blogging will be without you. and I'm not sure how to end this comment....... I guess I'll say Sweet hugs, Diane

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  28. I read this early today, but couldn't put words to a comment. I am back and all the above comments are so true. You will be missed. I don't have a clue if I could write for 10 years, but blogs are this weird draw to the common place of everyday life. You have been through a bunch this past little bit. grief is such a process. I have had. My share of that the past three years.
    I do hope this end is for a season only, but I understand. I applaud you for announcing it.
    Come back if you ever feel like it, but if you don't enjoy all the movements this short life has to offer.

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  29. I have not been blogging ten years or reading yours for that long, but I have read with you for over a year now and I must say that I am sad to see you leave. I pray that God grants us with a few more blessings occasionally from you.

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  30. Thank you for saying so long! I hope after a break away, you will return.

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  31. Dearest Vee, One thing I have learned is this, learn when to move on! You still have all our emails and many of our addresses. You are very creative and blogging is changing and may end as we all know it! I have seen how fast my days and years are going and I do not want to be found dead with my phone in my hand or sitting in front of my computer screen. When one door closes another one will open... A dear friend did stop blogging and she did try to come back but found it was not the same! My Dad always said so long and never goodbye! So long Happy Trails to you until we meet again!
    Love, Roxy

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  32. Ah, Vee. I have read every single one of your 10 years of posts. I think of you daily, and your blog is on my computer's favorites list. I respect that you know when to move on, and I realize since I stopped blogging that we don't communicate regularly, but I've got to tell you that this comes as a blow. How I miss you already. Blessings, dear Vee.

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  33. Dearest Vee, I too read your post earlier today but needed time for the lump to leave my throat and the tears to clear before I could compose a comment. You will be sorely missed by so many. I've been blogging for nine years and I too often wonder if it's time to stop. It does take a lot of energy, not to mention time. Selfish me wants you to continue, even if only now and then. But I do understand and respect your decision. I know we will stay in touch, and we will get together the first time I'm in your neck of the woods. (Obviously I'm not at the Maine Show this weekend.) Warm Hugs to you, dear Vee. Take good care of yourself and as someone else said, you can always change your mind... We will welcome you with open arms. Blogging won't be as much fun without you. XO

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  34. I read this this morning and I couldn't even think about it. (Can we say "denial"?) I still don't want to think about it, but I had to come back and say that I will miss, miss, miss your presence here in Blogland. You have such a gift of friendship and honesty and ease and people feel comfortable with you. I certainly understand your own need for a season of "quiet." But I have to hope that it is just that: a season.

    With much love . . .

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    1. Honestly, I made my comment before I read any others, but it appears many of us are on the same page!

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  35. You know my email address....and I do hope that you at least pop back here every now and then to say hello. LOVE you big bunches. Thanks for sharing so much with all of us over the years. You have made my life richer.

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  36. You know where to find me, Vee. Keeping you in prayer, friend. (everything already has been said by previous bloggers)

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  37. Dear Vee,
    This makes me so sad....have enjoyed reading your blog and will miss reading it so much. I hope you will stay on IG! It's been a pleasure and your writing and sense of humor have put many smiles on my face. Take care, xo Linda

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  38. I understand saying good bye to blogging. I also started my blog in 2007...losing the first one but starting right off with the 2nd.
    I am thinking of doing the same....I just no longer have the heart for it or anything else at this time. With Bill passing, he took along most of my heart with him. I KNOW people say it will be better with time but right now, I just can't believe it.
    Let's don't delete our blogs...too many hours invested and too many photos...
    I will probably do a post every now and then, with closed comments, but I will have to search hard to find anything worth blogging about. Before my life changed forever, posting was never a problem; I could think of 2 or 3 more topics before I finished with one I was working on...now, there's nothing I even want to TALK about, much less post about.
    I love you, my friend...and I hope we can stay in touch.

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  39. Vee, I understand, but will miss your posts. Visiting here as often inspired and/or motivated me. Our lives change and new chapters begin as others end. I feel we'll stay in touch.

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  40. Vee, I seldom comment but look everyday for your post. Will miss you and your sense of humor and visits in your world. Hope you will be back someday. Blessings to you, my friend, Sharon D.

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  41. Oh Vee I just read this and I haven't even begun to let it sink in yet but at the risk of sounding selfish I still just have to say...I can't bear it! I will miss your humor, your heart, just your very presence here in blogland. Now I guess I can say too that I do understand...I am not far from doing this myself. I feel like I've nothing to say anymore, all my posts are the same, it serves almost no purpose, takes lots of time, my readers have dwindled to almost no one, and YET I can never bear to leave something I've enjoyed so behind. Soo many readers I have lost over the years for whatever reason, are just that...lost. They decided to quit for many reasons. Have even lost a few to death. But it's always the same. The end of a friendship I'd learned to count on, and have been soo blessed by. But I guess maybe a good way to look at it might be they are always friendships that would have never existed at all had it not been for blogland, and for the season that they did in my life blessed me beyond measure. Soooo all of this to say, I really hope you'll be back. I really hope we can stay connected in some way. I wish you all the joy and happiness your heart can hold. And may the Lord bless you and keep you always! Debbie

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  42. Will certainly miss your posts very much and hope you will post every once in awhile at least so we know how you are. I've enjoyed getting to know you and wish you all the very best of everything! Many blessings to you!

    Jill

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  43. Well, wishing you all the best Vee. I've only followed your blog for a short while but sure have enjoyed each post. Blessings abundant in the days ahead!

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  44. Oh my dear Vee! We almost began blogging together and I felt an instant connection from the first time I read your blog.The blogging world was so sweet and cozy back then. I'm so sad I never met you and John in person but I feel as if I know you as a treasured friend and I will miss reading your blog. I hope we can keep in touch through e-mail or snail mail cards? I know this has been such a hard and tumultuous year for you in so many ways. You have been very brave but I know you may need time now to readjust and go forward. So happy to call you friend and I will keep in touch! xoxo

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  45. I will miss you if you stop, but understand. It's 8 years for my blog next month; one that Kelly set up for me. I've felt like I have given it the attention it needs to grow and maybe I should stop as well. I hope we stay in touch because I feel, even though we've never met, we are soul friends, XOXO

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  46. Oh Vee, I'm so sorry and sad to hear you won't be blogging anymore. Your blog is one of my favorites and I will surly miss it. I have followed you for years and have such a happy memory of meeting you and John. Maybe you will be like me, and end up blogging again!! 😊 I've tried a few times to quit blogging and never seem to make it!!
    I wish you much happiness and joy.

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  47. Vee,
    I so understand what you are saying. I have had to admit..slowly..that I probably won't ever come back to blogging...Every once in a while but that season seems to be over for me. I am glad I have met you and hope all the best for you.. Do give Instagram a good try. When you are not blogging anymore, it is a short and sweet..quick way to post something...
    Love, Mona

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  48. Aha, I felt this was coming for you too. One knows when they've reached the turning point and the friendships, support and love along the way create gratitude not easily forgotten. I'm only popping in to see what a selective small group of bloggers are doing and will likely stop all together one day.
    I am blessed to still be in touch with many of the ladies I've met through blogging
    on other social media platforms and I hope you'll continue to share on IG?
    Fondly,

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  49. It is sad to say goodbye, Vee, that little I've come to know you through the blog I liked very much. I hope our paths will cross again. A big hug.
    Amalia
    xo

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  50. Dear Vee I will miss you and hope you will pop in now and then, for you will remain on my reader. You have that rare ability to express yourself as you are, and then add some whit and humor, making us all want to come back and read more as you share your life with us. God speed and "see" you again some day.

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  51. Hi Vee~

    You will be missed, sweet friend. You have been a good, blogging buddy. I so enjoyed your posts, your sense of humor,
    Your thoughtful and gentle ways, but especially your wisdom and grace. I don't like goodbyes either, so I will just say...

    hugs and love,
    Barb

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