Saturday, April 22, 2017

A Cautionary Tale

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath
Ephesians 4:26

Now that is a tall order. I don't know about your personality, but mine leans toward "red alert" on its best day. 

Simple things can trip me — a post that never updates, a car that does not start or a groundhog clopping across my deck like a small pony. 

This "red alert" thing really goes bezerk when I feel someone I love has been wronged. 

Two weeks ago today, I entered The Ponderosa (John's place) for the first time since December. The snow was finally shallow enough to get through the door without climbing a snowbank. What I saw shocked me, scared me, and made me absolutely livid.

Someone had entered the building and stolen thousands of dollars of equipment. This was done while my tenant watched. She told her cousin the responding police officer (can you believe it?) that there was a woman who looked just like her landlord (me) and two men. She said that she thought nothing of it because there were always people there taking things. Really? Really?! 

To say that I would like to drop kick her to the moon is not too much of a stretch. Did she tell me? No. Did she call the police? No. Now I could say much more, in fact, I did and had to delete it, but this is the gist of it. 

There are other complications in this mess. Did you know that in my corner if you do not have the serial numbers from all pieces of equipment that the police will not even attempt to search pawn shops, etc.? 

I have told this story as a cautionary tale. Get those serial numbers, make sure your insurance is current, take photos, and have an inventory. Also, never assume that snow covering the door is a deterrent. These people shoveled their way in and shoveled the snow back covering their tracks. I feel like such a fool to have fallen for that trick. 

Perhaps you can imagine how much I feel I have failed John. Oh I know that he is not affected by these earthly things anymore, but he would have been some kind of upset if this had happened on his watch. I certainly regret that it has happened on mine.




This advice is good and the best philosophy/psychology/"the world" has to offer; however, it does not go far enough. It is true that we can not change the direction of the wind, but it is also true that we can't adjust our own sails either without the help of The Lord Himself. 

This issue is so big that I know I can't deal with it. I know my ongoing answer is forever and always in going to The Lord. I thank Him that this is just stuff and that no one was hurt, except for the financial loss and that sense of being violated. And I am really going to need His help to show grace. I can not begin to know why God allowed this, but since He did, He has a plan to work it all out. And I know that He will work on this angry heart of mine, too. 

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55 comments:

  1. I am so angry, Vee. You have a good heart and faith and have looked at this violation from many sides. Please don't feel you have failed John...this could have happened to anyone. I pray they find the creeps who did this. I'm sending you a huge hug...you are so strong.

    Jane x

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  2. Oh Vee, oh my gosh. I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face. I don't even know what to say except this: IF you are being challenged by the Ruler of Darkness in this ugly feat - you are playing to win. YOU KEEP THAT FAITH and do NOT let this rock your soul. GOD has your soul in His Beloved Arms - and don't falter.

    Don't let this hurt your health and mental being. Maybe you just need to get away for awhile. Check flights and come stay here for a while - I will pamper you like you don't even know. I hate an empty house and love love love my friends to visit. I will take you to Lake Erie too. Just try and see if you can get away from all of this mess right now so you can revitalize and regroup and deal with it on a stronger day.

    I am so so terribly sorry. The whole thing stinks like the grungy crap that it is.

    Healing hugs and prayers for you, Vee. ♥♥

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    1. You said so perfectly what I wanted to say but couldn't find the right words. Amen, Michele

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  3. Oh no!!!! I am so sorry to read this Vee. Good grief - the tenant should have known something was up. It seems people just don't give a hoot ... Wish this hadn't happen to you dear Vee. Stress that you just don't need. Hugs and prayers.

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  4. I'm so sorry, Vee. The world is an ugly place sometimes. God will deal with the criminals in His way. It's too bad that "neighbors" turned a blind eye to the goings on at the Ponderosa. I don't believe God wants you to not ever be angry. If this doesn't make you angry, what would? I pray the criminals are caught. ♥

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  5. Oh Vee.....I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry....(I know that's not enough)

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    1. Oh no! I'm so sorry this happened (and personally, I think it's allowed in this instance for you to get hopping mad. At least for a little while.). It's hard to understand how people can steal things and then live with themselves. May God grant you all the Grace you need in going forward. I heard someone say that if, in our hearts, we 'give' the thieves what they took, then God can bless us because we'll reap good things from what we have sown. In this way, no one can ever, really, steal from us at all. This has helped me through the years as I've had things taken in smaller ways. Anyway, I do thank you for reminder to keep records of our stuff and may you continue to feel safe and loved. Blessings, Debra

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  7. I am shocked and sad that this happened to you. Such a horrible thing, and I understand how you can feel so angry and violated.(We were robbed once, from an RV when we were on vacation.) I do not believe you have let John down and I do believe God will bring something good from all this....But I am so sorry it happened.

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  8. Hard to put into words how this makes me feel, so I can only imagine your heartbreak and anger. Just like you though to share your lesson with each of us to prevent the same from happening to one of us...thank you. I will be praying for the Lord to bless you and get you through this. xoxo

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  9. My mouth is dry from hanging open while reading and feeling the shock of what you found. Bless you for sharing your bad experience with your readers so we can learn. I am so sorry you have had to experience this!!!

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  10. When we get a glimpse of how mean people can be...it is shocking. It shocks me over and over again because it's not the way I would do things. I try to understand why they would do it...which is dumb. We can't possibly understand how other people think....especially when we are led by God's spirit and perhaps they are....fill in the blank. I hope you can get answers at least and get past that bad feeling. Hugs and hugs, Diane

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  11. Oh Vee. I am so very sorry to read this. I feel the anger in me welling up as I think about it. I will pray for grace for you as you deal with this mess. Hugs.

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  12. Wow! I would have reacted with anger too Vee because you feel so violated. You are not responsible for what happened so don't blame yourself. All you friends are praying for you and the Lord is beside you.

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  13. Oh Vee, I'm so sorry to read this today. I'm not only sorry, but very angry for your sake. Don't people just beat all sometimes?! I feel like this was almost criminal negligence on the part of your tenant and I have to wonder if she wasn't somehow involved in the whole thing. That's probably being way to suspicious on my part, but stranger things have happened.

    As others have said, you are certainly not to blame for this. I know what a time you've had with all the snow this year, and you have to be careful not to get injured getting out and about in it. John would not want you to be hard on yourself. Again, I'm so sorry and you remain in my thoughts and prayers.

    Denise at Forest Manor

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  14. Oh, Vee! I'd be righteously angry, too! I can't imagine that the renter didn't even let you know this was happening! Sigh. Its ugly - this desire for stuff, that some feel entitled too!

    I'm praying!

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  15. Vee I am sending you a hug in the hope that it is a comfort and know that you will be in my prayers.

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  16. Oh Vee, I am so sorry to hear that you have this to deal with now. Can't imagine why your tenant wouldn't have told you or called the police.
    Please don't blame yourself for any of this. John certainly wouldn't!!!!

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  17. Oh dear! I am sharing in your anger from afar! How can anything good come from this? Praying that you can 'pick up the pieces' and go forward. May God give you peace and wisdom in dealing with the situation. Thanks for the reminder about being prepared. I once engraved all valuables with our code (through Crime-stoppers) and videoed all our stuff. Laughing now, 'cuz that was two decades ago. The video camera and cassettes are all a thing of the past and much of our 'stuff' has been replaced. Maybe I should take inventory once more.

    Love your pillow! Did you make that?

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    1. No, it's a balsam pillow...one of those for tourists, but it smells so good.

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  18. Oh bother, what a very unsettling and disappointing thing to have happened. I'm so sorry. Evil persists in this world. Praying you can receive comfort as you sort out your feelings with God's help.

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  19. So, so sorry you have to deal with this, Vee. I've been out of state all day (traveling to and from an event in MA) and just now catching up with these happenings. Some way, somehow, this will work for good, I am sure of that. So hard to understand why God allows some things, but He sees the big picture, He has a plan, and He is always good.

    Please don't blame yourself. I am very sure that John wouldn't blame you. You will be faithfully in my prayers as you deal with all of this. Keep us posted as to how things are going. With love and a virtual hug ...

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  20. I am so, so sorry that you have to deal with this. Your final paragraphs sum it up. It is only with the Lord's help that we can "adjust our sails." Only He can provide the grace that we need to handle these ugly things. Continuing to pray for you . . .

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  21. I am so sorry that this happened! As you say, it really is best to learn from this and to not let it bother you too much. I know this is easy for me to say but it truly is best not to dwell on bad things, saying "if only". One must be positive and remember that God is with US, always!
    (And do NOT blame yourself, who in the world would think someone could break into a place with all that snow, and then cover their tracks? Sneaky devils...there is no other word for them.) Oops, sorry, I am trying not to be angry here! God needs to help me with anger also.

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  22. Oh no Vee, I am so sorry! It's funny, the saying on your pillow has been popping up everywhere lately...perhaps a message to me, I don't know. Sometimes seems like a tall order for sure, especially in your circumstances. I'd be looking in every resale, pawn shop around. Online too....it's just such a violation. Hoping you get some of these things returned to you, stranger things have happened. Thinking of you....xo
    Linda

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  23. This is heartbreaking Vee! I know this must have upset you terribly! It is amazing that people feel they can just steal and walk away scott free. Perhaps a little research will show someone fairly close that has the equipment. Someone saw and knows something....just so low! I am so so sorry this has happened to you! Warm hugs from Texas!

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  24. Oh Vee!! I'm so sorry to read about this. Good grief. People today are so brazen. And neighbours sure aren't what they used to be in some cases either. Good advice about taking photos and writing down serial numbers of items. Videoing our homes inside and out and property is also a good idea and have it stored safely on a hard drive. I really hope you might find some of the missing tools but no doubt they've been sold for drug money and are long gone. I'm really sorry this happened to you but God has it all figured out, as you said. Hugs. Pam

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  25. How sad that they stole from someone whose husband had passed. Things are crazy. I have a few stories of my own. Can you put an alarm on it? People like that come back. I like the saying, "God sees the truth, but waits." xoxo Su

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  26. Wow...I hardly know what to say...first of all, I am so sorry this happened. Sometimes there just aren't any answers as to why. There are people out there who just don't care about anyone, especially these days... that defies any explanation, let alone reasoning. Desperate or just plain wicked people seem to be around every corner, even in our own "safe" neighborhoods. What ever purpose this has for happening, you already have the answer..."let God handle it"...and He will. You may or may not ever know how or when. Sending you hugs today, my friend. ♥

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  27. Oh Vee, I am SO sorry to read this. As others have said, some people just have no respect for others' property, thinking only of themselves. And it's true, neighbours are not what they used to be. We had a break-in in our home right in broad daylight last summer when we were out for a very short time; it leaves you feeling very violated. He/they got away with cash and jewellry. Having an inventory and photos is wise advice, one we have learned the hard way! Good lesson for all.

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  28. Oh Vee, I am so sorry about this. I would be angry and upset too. xo Deborah

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  29. Bless your heart Vee, this hurts me for you. I pray you can work thru this and come out on top. Blessings during this most difficult time!

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  30. I'm so sorry this happened to you, Vee. What a terrible thing to have to deal with.
    Your advice about taking photos and keeping a record is also important in case of a fire. Where we live fire is always a danger and a firewise committee told us to put house photos and inventory on record and send them to trusted family members that live elsewhere in case we have to make insurance claims and need proof. Sending hugs and prayers your way. xoxo

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  31. Oh Vee! I'm so so sorry.. thank you for sharing this. Who would think to write down numbers of equipment? I'm wondering, did John register any of his equipment? Perhaps you could get serial numbers from the registration information? I always try to register big ticket items. That could be a place to start. What a tragic terrible mess for you to deal with, and to think they covered their tracks back up? Are you sure the tenant isn't involved? I'll be praying for you, that the Lord would give you wisdom in this situation!

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    1. I was also wondering, Vee, if John had registered any of his equipment. Another thought I had was that if he had saved any of the owner's manuals for any of the items (and lots of people will save those, even men, if they think that they may need to order a part for said item at a later date), often times the serial number may be in the owner's manual or tucked in on a separate card. Might be worth a look to see if he saved any of the manuals.

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  32. Words cannot express my anger. I was taught to respect others property and every time I see or hear about theft or vandalism, my blood boils (as my mother would have said!) I have to just console myself and say that Karma will catch up with these people who will steal from others. You have definitely had your share to deal with; I wish I was near to help dear friend, XOXO

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  33. Oh Vee this just makes me sick hearing this! I am soo sorry it has happened. What on earth is the matter with people? My blood is boiling right along with yours. I can't imagine ANYONE would have written down serial numbers either. Well I will pray for your peace about this, for wisdom to know just how to handle it, and for the knowing that God has indeed "got this". Hugs to you!

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  34. Dearest Vee, this made my heart so sad for you as I read your post. It makes me angry too. I cannot stand a liar nor a thief. And as a friend of mine said once, "If you will lie, you will steel". I have had things stolen before too and it just boils your blood. I had our little shed ram-shacked once and all our fishing things, tools and lots of stuff was stolen. We dealt with it. But one day I came home to my home being broken into. I felt violated! Guns, ammo and etc. stolen. It's frightening no doubt. But having John's things stolen I know makes you sick to your stomach. I am so very sorry that you had to deal with that. Hugs and blessings, Cindy

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  35. Oh my gosh, this is a shocker, Vee! What a shame the tenant wasn't a little more smart about what was going on. I hate to think she may have been involved. Good advice to get write those serial numbers down! I feel so badly for you :(

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  36. I am so sorry to hear this, Vee. As I read my heart sank further and further. With all that you have been through this past year, this just seems so unfair. How people who do things like this are able to live with themselves is beyond me.

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  37. Oh Vee, what a sad tale that was. I am so sorry that this happened to you and that the tenant wasn't more vigilant. Could she have been involved in any way?? It just sounds a little fishy to me. Yes, you're so right, it's just stuff, but it was John's stuff. I still pray for you daily, Vee, and I'll continue. Love and hugs are sent across the miles.

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  38. Dear Vee, I am so sorry, I am angry for you, Thanks for the advice! Must get busy! The boldness of some people just blows my mind! Could this have been done by someone who knew your situation? I could write a book on what I see is happening in the world! It seems people have no fear of God's laws
    anymore much less mans! I am going to pray the who ever did this will not rest until they have made it right!
    Thank you for coming by and for always encouraging me with your comments, you are such a dear friend, and I adore you!.
    much love,
    Sue

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  39. How would they have known to look there? It all sounds a bit fishy. Yes, I would also be angry. I always tell myself when things aren't right that God has a lesson for me to learn in this, but sometimes it's difficult (in the human body) to understand. As you know and you are feeling now ~ only faith and knowing that God is taking care of things helps in these situations. I'm so sorry, Vee, that this happened to you. I think it's time that I look into home security. Thank you for impressing on us the importance of doing so.

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  40. How very disappointing that someone would not only steal your property but do it under the watchful eye of your renter. These thieves had to have had a heads up about the equipment stored.
    Good advice to readers to document and photograph valuables, all my jewelry has been photographed (well the good stuff at least :-)
    I really have no words of consolation Vee, other than to say I feel your pain from this experience and know you will take measures from here on to protect what is yours.

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  41. Yes, I would think that the word violated fits this situation perfectly, and I suspect your sense of loyalty, love, and responsibility toward John is the most bruised by this. I am so sorry this has happened, Vee. Very good advice to take down serial numbers (and photographic inventory?) for future reference. God help you in your struggle. Every day I pray that God will make me more like Jesus and everyday I wish he would hurry (unless it's painful, of course.)

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  42. That is so sad. I am so sorry and it crushes my spirit when people take advantage like that. Also I cannot believe your tenant watched this and said nothing at all. Thank you for your advice, it is very helpful and definitely a must! ((Hugs))

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  43. Darlin', that tenant would be gone so fast her head would spin. I really hope it wasn't some set up. Anyway, I'm really sorry. That is beyond horrible. And yes, he may not care about his earthly goods, but he still cares about you and I know it must pain him to see you upset.

    Many hugs, my friend,
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  44. Oh, Vee! I am so sorry! So many of your friends who have posted speak for my heart as well. I'm reminded of a saying that says.....better to be the one one stolen from than be the thief. Small comfort but very true!
    You have the very est attitude possible and I do do love and admire you! Love and prayers from Texas!

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  45. Well that just stinks! I think I would start out by telling your tenant that in future, you will come to the door and tell her if anything is going to be removed, and if she sees someone in there and hasn't been notified she needs to call the police. It certainly takes some nerve for the thieves to have shoveled their way in, carted things off and then shoveled to cover their tracks all while someone was home! Unbelievable! After I had a good rant to someone I would have to convince myself it was just stuff and that I couldn't let it continue to steal my peace. Having said that, you seem to be handling it as well as anyone could. These kind of things can really throw a person into turmoil. I'm praying that God helps you let go of the pain and anger. Sending love your way and hoping you are feeling more at peace.

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  46. Now I'm mad for you. If there is one thing I despise it's a thief, and how somebody can do that is beyond me. No conscience at all. Give me a little while and I'll try and follow your example and calm down. I once went out to drive home from work and my car was gone! Whoever took it had an accident in it and the police recovered it at that time.
    As for the witness, I am prone to question things going on at my neighbor's homes. If it's legit they should have no problem answering my questions. We've had a lot of things stolen around here and pretty much watch out for each other. Still, they manage to do the darndest things. Sorry about your stuff. I get mad just thinking about it!

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  47. There are so many greedy people around these days. My daughter has moved to rented accommodation while their house is being refurbished and extra extensions built. They had only been out a few days when the site was broken into after the builders had left for the day. Lots of equipment stolen. They have now had to put the digger inside the house and barricade up. Also put the portaloo against a now boarded up area.

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  48. Injustice always makes me angry, as I believe it does our Lord. I cannot imagine how you must've felt. I hope that somehow, some way the tools may be recovered. I pray that you will be able to be at peace in your own heart whether or not they are. Bless you...

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  49. Sorry for your losses, people who steal and damage what does not belong to them make me angry as well. Thanks for the very good tips on putting down serial numbers of equipment and doing a photo inventory. I have these numbers but not in a coordinated file and need to take those photos!

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