A Haven for Vee

Thursday, September 22, 2011

A Sweet Realization

"Mom, do you have some good pictures of Grandma?" she asked me.

"Sure, I have some really nice ones," I responded. "What do you need?"

"I want to wear her picture on the sleeve of my tee shirt for the P*atrick D*empsey Challenge."

So began our time going through photos last evening. We looked at this one taken in September, 2010.

My mother and my grandmother

We smiled a little and said how odd it is to think that we had them both a year ago. I named this photo "An Autumn Walk," though it was winter for them both. My grandmother would be off to Glory in just a few short weeks and my mother in three short months.

Then we looked at this one...

My daughter and my mother

It's a favorite of mine. My daughter thought it needed cropping and so started in when I said, "Wait a minute, you're cropping off your grandmother's hug."

My daughter looked a little startled and then her face began to crinkle and soon mine mirrored hers. "I never knew that she had her arm around me, " she whispered.

"Yes, she did and don't be surprised if she sits on your handlebars and enjoys the ride in October."

At that thought, we chuckled through our tears. We've not cried together like this since January. It was good to talk about my mother. I think we'll do it more often tears or not.

30 comments:

  1. Oh Vee....what a beautiful post! My face crinkled as well. To lose one is alot, but both that close together must have been so hard. I'm glad you and your daughter had those moments together last night. Keeping them close in your heart is important! Thank you for sharing this time with your daughter!

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  2. Ok, now I am teary eyed along with you!

    Your mother is beautiful -

    I guess I didn't start regularly reading your blog until after you lost them....I am sorry for your loss. Today is 5 years since I lost my grandmother. It has flown by.

    Deanna

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  3. Oh Vee, God bless you and your daughter. What a sweet moment to remember two wonderful ladies in your lives. It is good to remember even if it hurts a little. Tears are good for the heart. Blessings, Pamela

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  4. Precious memories! I'm so glad we have been able to take lots of photos in recent years. I can't look at them all the time...bring them out often though! We never get over missing those we love. The hug is priceless! ♥

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  5. Wonderful memories, how blessed you are to have them, and to have a daughter to share them with :)
    hugs to you,
    Niki

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  6. Such sweet photos. It's nice to be able to look back and go over the memories of those that we've lost. My mother and I were doing the same a few days ago. It does bring tears, but we have such good memories.

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  7. That is a beautiful photo Vee. Thanks for sharing it. This post reminds me of how my mother lost her mother and I also lost mine within a year.

    My grandmother was early nineties and my mother was early seventies. They were both in the winter of their lives as well.

    We never knew.

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  8. I'm teary-eyed, too, Vee. Such sweet and sad memories all at the same time. That's a great picture of your beautiful daughter and your mom. They favor alot - did you notice??? What a treasure that photo will be to you and to your daughter in the years to come. You should have it enlarged and put it up somewhere so you can look at it all the time! Hugs ~~~

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  9. How sweet Vee! Life and memories are so precious.

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  10. I hope this post encourages people to take pictures of loved ones giving and receiving hugs and kisses too. We always love those special pictures more and more over time.

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  11. How wonderful that your daughter wants to wear a picture of her grandma on her t-shirt for the bike ride. That first picture is so special with your own mom and grandma. Your daughter and mom really do look a lot alike. Sorry to hear of your losses so close together. It's a good thing for you and your daughter to be able to share in the wonderful memories. Hope your day is great. Tammy

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  12. Dear Vee
    I can't imagine how hard that must have been to have lost both your grandmother and mother so close to each other.
    I can see you and your daughter treasure the photos.And I don't blame you one bit for getting teary eyed!
    I know I'm on the countdown with my own mother and I have to admit I'm scared-I can't imagine life without her...

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  13. I love that picture too...especially with the hug! Beautiful.

    It is good to shed tears again...from time to time...as 're-live' the memories. Hugs to you!

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  14. Sweet photos and sweet memories. Today is one year since my FIL passed away. It's hard to believe a year has already gone by.

    It's okay to get shed tears. I know I still do, when I think of my parents and brothers. And many others too. But the special love that is between mother and daughter or grandmother and daughter will always be a treasure and never fade away. The photos that capture that love are precious reminders.

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  15. I should have added "occasionally" after the "I know I still do". Of course I don't cry every time!

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  16. Oh Vee, what a beautiful and touching post. I could barely get through it as the tears were clouding my view of your words.
    I can see why that picture of your mother and daughter is such a favorite. They sure do look alike.

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  17. You are in a very good place when you can talk about them and enjoy their memories. It does hurt but it is so much better than fearing the tears and raw emotion that comes with the missing of them. Such beautiful memories.....such beautiful women....all four of you!!

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  18. What a touching post, my grandma passed when I was three, my mom 9 1/2 years ago. I still have vague memory of my g'ma. Miss my mom every single day..... but also feel her presence. xo

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  19. What a beautiful photo of your Mom and grandmother, and daughter and Mom, Vee! You were so fortunate to spend so much time with them before they went to their Glory. I know it was stressful at times to be a care taker -- I am experiencing that now taking care of my elderly Mom, but their are so many blessings as part of it, too.
    I'm sure your daughter also feels fortunate to have had both her grand mother and great-grandmother in her life so dearly. She resembles your Mom very much! Iwish her good luck on her bike ride!

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  20. {{{{VEE }}}}...we both posted about our mothers. I have cried, off and on, all day. Guess it was putting the post together that got me going. I've not accomplished a thing today other than thinking of her. Wonder why some days, weeks, months, years, are harder than others. My mama's been gone over 20 years and sometimes, it's so fresh, it could have been yesterday.
    Your mom and your daughter are both beautiful..just as I knew they would be.
    Little grands helped me make Divinity last Christmas...bet they will again this year.
    Going to bed early tonight...
    xo bj

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  21. Vee both your mother and grandmother have wonderful smiles. I can't imagine losing both within 3 months of each other. May God continue to comfort you and encourage you with the hope of being reunited one day.

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  22. Sad you lost them so close to each other. They're together, keeping company. Pictures and memories are always good times, relive them often, it's good for the heart and soul.

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  23. Hi again, Vee - I have no idea what Adam eats before he sings. Greasy fried chicken sounds logical - get that throat all lubed up. I know he drinks tons of water while performing tho... never thought about that... might pass that along to him!

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  24. What a sweet post, Vee. I love the photo of your mother and grandmother together. Grandma looks like a spunky gal :) Amazing they left you in such a short time span.

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  25. Oh Vee..such sweet pictures and precious memories. You know me and the pictures and memories I 'm constantly posting.

    Your sweet post and pictures left me teary eyed, in a good way.

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  26. I remember them both so well, and enjoyed all of the times you shared these two precious ladies with us, Vee.
    The Autumn Walk photo is "Priceless" and the photo of your beautiful daughter with her grandmother. is so "Precious."

    One of the reasons I take so many photos when family comes is to be able to sit as you and your daughter did and remember those special moments.I think having more special times like this is just what the doctor has ordered.

    I wouldn't be surprised if grandmother wasn't sitting on those handlebars cheering her on.
    As always such a joy to visit you.
    Hugs,
    Sue

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  27. Oh. You made me cry, too. Such lovely pictures of beautiful women.

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  28. The touch of someone beloved is so meaningful, and missed when gone. Your daughter resembles your mom.

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  29. Such precious thoughts! Vee - just a year ago you had them both with you! What a challenging year for you. Yet, I thought..."How nice for the two of them...a mother and daughter as well (your Grandma and Mom) that they could go to heaven so close in time and not grieve in this life for so long." Then I thought of you. And prayed for you. Time does NOT heal.Parting is NOT sweet sorrow. But we do have ONE who walks with us and eases the loss...until THAT DAY when we shall be with them! Hugs!

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