Resolutions and Words
I have so much to say and am choosing not to. It would be negative and whiny and self-serving and downright annoying. *Aren't you glad that I am sparing you? ☺
If I were going to share, I'd say something about what a failure I am in not keeping last year's resolution. (That does it for me. Once and for all, I am done with words, resolutions, and anything else where I set myself up for failure.) Right. Dare turned out to be a big flop proven by the fact that Sankewi had been there in my sidebar unattended for months, and by the fact that I don't give a royal flip about it anymore. Well, maybe just a little, but not enough to give it any attention. So — moving right along — it has been removed. It's still there, but not linked.
Tell me, which side of the aisle do you fall on as far as words and resolutions? I'd love to know. For me, it's like building a house of cards.
~Sam's House of Cards~
*Some sparing, eh?!
What is Sankewi? I'm easily confused. ;-( I gave up on resolutions years and years ago. I don't even think about them any longer. About words. . .does that mean my mistake of opening mouth and inserting foot? I still do that!
ReplyDeleteI don't chose yearly words or make resolutions. I want to keep myself adaptable, so I change my priorities and goals on a regular basis. External factors change, and I change accordingly. That philosophy has served me well over the years. It certainly helped me mentally survive the challenges Mr. Jim and I faced last year.
ReplyDeleteI'm not a resolution person. Why tear yourself up about it? I say. I have enough other junk to feel guilt about. New starts are nice, and the new year feels fresh and new and hopeful for better living, and it's a good time to pause and think about how I could live better, but I just try to do the best I can each day. I constantly fail, but I welcome grace each day. :-)
ReplyDeleteWell if you can't vent to friends who can you vent to Vee? We all have our failures in the resolution department. I just don't bother with resolutions or words for the year. I feel that all I can do is try every day to be the best I can. I fail enough as it is without resolutions. Besides, maybe our own resolutions and "words' get in the way of the resolutions that God would like to show us, maybe? Now I have to go look up Sankewi.
ReplyDeleteWell..dear friend..I do not make resolutions (been trying, like Facebook). I have been struggling myself for a while on many different things. I think I understand where your coming from (smiles). Blessings (now, I have to find what that words means, lol.)
ReplyDeleteYou need to join a writer's group like the one I associate with. (I say this because I write newspaper and magazine articles whereas they are all book authors) The last session was on finding your muse, or mojo I guess and how to inspire it. Even though Sankewi may be on the back burner, something may come to you when you least expect it.
ReplyDeleteI don't do resolutions or words other than "lose weight" - it's like a little voice in my ear. I try, but am not disciplined enough to be successful.
Judith
I get excited about choosing a word and actually thought of one this morning. But last year I forgot what my word was. I told someone it was Joy....but when I looked in my journal, Joy was my word 2 years ago! hahaha! I live life in the present most of the time. I get up in the morning and figure out what I want or need to do. My Dad always said, I woke up in a new world every day. I don't think that was a compliment though! lol But I consider my life an adventure most of the time. Have a wonderful day! Stay warm!
ReplyDeleteDid you really laugh? Oh good...that's makes us both feel better! Happy hugs!
DeleteNo resolutions here. It's day to day for me...living in the moment. My words.....2013 was the year I asked God to 'school' me and He pointed out some 'no-no's' to me. I saw some good process....and it's most likely a never ending thing to watch our words.
ReplyDeleteI chose a word this year that really suits me and I think will be comfortable for me to do, "simplify". As for your past attempts, let it go and begin a new year fresh and perky and do it in your style of no word this year. Wishing you a year of joy.
ReplyDeleteI would say you Dared quite well last year. You shared your life and thoughts almost daily and usually 30-40 people read them and then were moved enough to comment. That's quite impressive!
ReplyDeleteI thought your book was good when I read what there was of it. Does it help to realize that books only get published and then read if a publicist invested in getting the word out about the book? One classmate of mine has written several books and he promotes them CONSTANTLY....he facebook posts about anything then adds something about his latest book.
You were quite understated about your book; I suspect that if you had promoted it in every post there would have been a lot more feed back and that would have fueled your enthusiasm as well. A writing group is also a great way to get back into the writing swing. I wish I could find an on-line writing group as attending any group in person isn't always easy.
That being said....I have noticed women over 50 seem to drift away from reading fiction. Maybe by 50 women have been though enough emotional upheaval and seen enough path taking through life that they no longer are interested in doing the same again via fiction. True stories and biographies are a bit more rewarding way to spend time.
And...who gives a flip about anything in January anyway? Hibernation...now there's a word to embrace. If there is a day when resolution making makes sense it would be the first day of spring, in my opinion.
In a year's time, I lost23 pounds. I did proclaim 2013 to be the year of the shed, and when Inwasn't looking, or should I say, wasn't eating, off they came. I didn't need to bore anyone with posts, I really have no sage advice, this year I hope to continue to do whatever it was I was doing. xo
ReplyDeleteDon't beat yourself up for not following through on your resolutions. I don't make resolutions or words. I do make some goals for myself and that seems to work better than making resolutions.
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ReplyDeleteIf I had resolutions this year they would mention finishing some of the already started projects! Poof, broken already as I bought yarn for two new projects yesterday. Oh, well.
Carol
I learned years ago that I never follow through with my resolutions. Lately my worst defeats have come in the exercise and weight department. Every time I started in 2013 I'd lose a few but then put on even more. What's up with that? I guess you didn't want to hear all my whining did you??? The only thing I'm putting on the daily plate this year is spending some time in the morning in the Word. That's it. I hope to be open to whatever each new day brings.
ReplyDeleteI did the word thing...it helped more to just incorporate it into my bible studies. This year I just chose to try and be healthy...my husband is showing me up with his diet and bike riding and no carb lifestyle...leaving me in the dust! It's catch up time.
ReplyDeleteI never make resolutions anymore. I never kept them and then I would feel guilty. Don't feel guilty if you didn't keep last year's resolution. Make a resolution this year not to make anymore resolutions. :-)
ReplyDeleteI do a word, and last years word was simplify. This years word is Simplify. (are you laughing?) I have made progress but am not where I want to be yet. Vee, you're way too hard on yourself, but then again, that's what we women do. We hold ourselves to a higher standard and expectation then we're capable of. Just give each day the best that you can and feel good about what you did do. (This is for me as much as for you, or anyone else reading). ~ Abby
ReplyDeleteI don't make resolutions or have a word for the year. I couldn't possibly limit myself to just one word! And, besides, it would exhaust me trying to choose just one.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry about being whiny, if you need to vent then fire away. I did that in my blog today, although I tried to do it in a humorous way. One blogger got it, but I'm not sure the rest caught on to my style of humor!
I do have to say that I miss knowing what happened in Sankewi!
yep... that's why my word is 'plaid'! :)
ReplyDeleteEven when whiny, you're entertaining. I don't make resolutions, either. But I did choose a word for the year, sort of. Stretch. I figure life will stretch me in some way during the year, so I can then say, nodding wisely, "yes, this is my year to stretch," rather than have a hissy fit.
ReplyDeleteI'll miss your Sankewi episodes. I checked in there every so often to see what was up. Writing is HARD work. Some day, perhaps, the motivation will return. I hope so.
PS. I will probably still throw hissy fits this year.
I am terrible about resolutions. Seriously bad at them. I am learning to just let the Lord teach me something, leaning on Him to lead, and then I get somewhere. When its up to me to resolve to do something - well, it doesn't last very long!
ReplyDeleteI was really enjoying Sankewi. I hope one day you'll finish it. Even if you don't want to put it on the blog, you can just send a copy to me! :)
Stay warm!
Deanna
I figure if I didn't keep a specific resolution, it wasn't what God wanted me to focus on anyway, and tried to dig deeper into what I should be focusing on... hope that helps you as much as it does me!
ReplyDeleteI don't do resolutions because my theory is that if something needs to change, change it now. Not that I'm very good at that, either! But I did choose a word this year for the first time. I chose the word gentle. I know that I'm not going to be perfectly gentle, but I want to be more conscious of it since I tend to be more abrupt, which often comes across as harsh even when I don't intend to be.
ReplyDeleteI resolve not to resolve. I just can't stick with anything. I have chosen a word, sort of unofficially, for the year. Expectant. I've had it before. I think we should always be expectant as to what the Lord will do in our lives every day/year. We don't know what lies ahead so we can't jump the gun and say "I'm going to lose 10.568 pounds this year". So, no resolutions but lots of expectancy for what the future holds. Hugs, Pam
ReplyDeleteNo words or resolutions for me.
ReplyDeleteI don't make resolutions but I am into words. I think it's more productive to address a fault I find in myself (a sometimes daily event) and try to correct it from that point on. I'm sure my friends also appreciate that. Besides, somewhere in the Bible He states "don't make promises". Can't remember the chapter and verse but I think that is good advice. God bless. ~:)
ReplyDeleteAfter reading this post I have come up with a word... Hooray. Hooray for knowing there are plenty of others who don't do resolutions or words. At times it seems like all of blogland is coming up with clever words to take them through the year. I thought about it once and decided it's not for me. Although I do like to take the beginning of a fresh new year to make a real effort to try some new things and challenge myself in small ways.
ReplyDeleteI will miss Sankewi. I would check in there from time to time and always enjoyed it.
No way I'm setting myself up for failure either!
ReplyDeleteI'm lucky to even get the stuff on my list accomplished each day.
I do have goals that I hope that with the Lords help will come to pass
in my life.
Nope, no resolutions over here...it is a recipe for failure for me too. But DO I have goals and things I work towards. But life changes soo much sometimes day to day I just do what I can...
ReplyDeleteI like to give myself some goals but I consider them more like things to aim for so I don't feel like a failure if I don't make it. Like to read 52 books this year, see how many miles I walk, and learning 100 Bible verses.
ReplyDeleteLove the house of cards! I'm not too good at making resolutions. So I guess there is very little chance of failing..or succeeding! Oh dear.
ReplyDeleteOkay, sounds like your having one of those moments....
ReplyDeleteJust be glad it is a new year and you have many new days ahead. Sometimes we just need to stop and enjoy and take a break. It has been a long winter already...
You really do make me laugh, even on those days :)
Always, Roxy
Don't be your own worst enemy and be so hard on yourself, my sweet friend.
ReplyDeleteJust be grateful to be alive, breathe, try and be responsible for more random acts of kindness and live.
All is well with the world if you put worries and stresses in their place. Behind thee.
Big hugs.
PS I have been absent again, will try and back read what all I have missed. xxoo
When I was younger I wanted to make resolutions for great changes and then hated myself when I didn't keep them. Now I make resolutions to try to gently move in the direction in which I want to go and begin again every morning as needed. I am grateful for every small success and look on failures as educational experiences. And keep on keeping on.......
ReplyDeleteYou are unique and wonderful, Vee, and should not judge yourself.That's what I think. I believe we can only judge actions and not people, and that includes ourselves.
I do not make resolutions. I don't know that I ever have; if I have, I don't remember. I have never chosen a word for the year either. However, I can say that there have been several times that a "theme" or "word" has come to me over the course of a year...something that was impressed upon me or an idea that I kept encountering. A couple of years ago, I had a year of "rejoicing and weeping" as so many highs and lows were a part of our year. This year, it has been "celebrate" with the emphasis on "Ebenezer." Both times, these were not concepts that I chose at the beginning of the year, but were concepts that became a part of my life, put there by God.
ReplyDeleteMakes me think of the Scripture, "A man's heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps." (Prov. 16:9)
(That said, I do set some simple goals, although they are often more of a to-do list!)
I used to make resolutions. Every year was like a major project where I planned to do all these things and FIX what was wrong with me. They lasted about 2 weeks. Then, I tried a different approach and planned just to DO some things. Again, a major flop.
ReplyDeleteA few years ago, I decided to do the color thing. (Mine is always primarily about the color and THEN about the word and not the other way around, btw. I realize that's counter intuitive in blogville, but that's the way I roll. ) It was the right balance for me (ha!) because it wasn't about doing something or changing something. It was just about fun.. For my brain, it works. It's concrete (as in a place to go for inspiration) yet whimsical at the same time.
I'm sure I can't be the only person on the planet who picks a color of the year, but I personally don't know anyone else who does it. None of my family and friends have felt the need to flatter by imitation. Therefore, I'm pretty sure most people think I'm odd for doing it. That's OK with me. I AM odd. Might as well go with it.
For me, the key is not expecting it to change my life and therefore giving it more power than it deserves. God changes lives, not colors or words or resolutions, IMO. The YELLOW "finding the sunshine" year changed my perspective and did so permanently, but that wasn't the plan. It was just a blessing that was the bi product of the practice. That's why I dubbed it my life color in perpetuity.
Just realized that I wrote a blog post here.
Well, you asked...
I don't do resolutions. It's just setting myself up for failure. I choose the word goals and I make them small so that when I reach one, I can set another. I find I don't get as discouraged that way.
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Linda
I don't make resolutions as such...never have. But since my birthday and the new year come so close in time I always think about what I would like to work on in myself. I too, am tired of failure and I am trying to not set myself up for it. My word, well that seems to be God doing it and not me. I couldn't have walked out last years word and this year for sure can't be done in the flesh. So for me I think my word is really watching God bring it to pass and we submitting. I can say that the last few years of picking a word (or words) it has really brought more change in me than any resolution I could have written out.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you on the resolutions! I really never keep them....but I always say I'm going to....LOL!
ReplyDeleteHappy day to you rock star!
karianne
No resolutions for me, either, Vee. I just take each day as it comes and try to do and act my best. xo
ReplyDeleteI do believe "that if you aim at nothing you'll hit it every time". So I like to choose something to focus on for the year. But I don't let it become a huge thing in my life. Things change all the time and you need to be flexible.
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