A Haven for Vee

Saturday, May 2, 2009

May 2

Neighbors' tulips along stone foundation

How wonderful to have a cloudy, rainy morning give way to bright sunshine and clear blue skies by eight-thirty. When I awoke, I thought that it would be a rainy day. All day. Instead, I get this unexpected joy. It feels like a metaphor, a sign. All night long I kept wakening telling myself not to worry that it was all a dream, except that it wasn't.

Last evening, I was puttering in my sewing room. John had gone shopping for molding and other things from Lowe's and I remained home because I hadn't felt well during the day. My phone wasn't working and it had been unusually quiet...rather peaceful really. I saw a car come roaring in and thought to myself...Ha! that John! He went as far as the ice cream shop and then decided not to continue. Then an insistent rap on the door and I knew it wasn't John.

My mother...my poor mother. Nearly already in tears because she had tried all day to reach me and couldn't. And, she had needed me. She'd been waiting on the results of some tests and they had come back. Yesterday. The results weren't good. We sat there trying not to cry and then we just had a good talk and when John came home, he sat right down to pray with her taking both of her hands in his. He prayed for healing; he prayed for comfort; he prayed for courage.

Caregivers...I tell you. They are God's angels on earth, but they must learn how to take care of themselves. The doctors have told my mother that this cancer could well have been brought on by stress. It's stage three. We have eleven days to wait before the next step...specialists in a large city. I hope not to turn my blog into an ongoing health report, but I will keep a record from time to time and mostly for myself.

My azaleas about to bloom


  1. So sorry to hear about your Mother Vee. I understand completely everything that you are feeling right now. We're all here for you if you need us.
    I will definatly keep your Mum in my prayers.
    ((Big Hugs))

  2. I will also keep your Mother and all of you in my prayers...

  3. Prayers for your mother, as well as for you.

    ~ Mermaid Shelley

  4. Vee,

    You share as much as you want to. We care about you.

    I am so sorry to hear this report for your mother. I will be praying for all of you.

    Your husband sounds like a very lovely man. I can just feel the peace that he must have lent from his prayer.

    Gayla at Oatmeal and Whimsey just found out that her mother has cancer this week, as well. She is in a very similar place.

    Sending love and prayers your way.

  5. Precious friend Vee,
    Please know the your mother is covered in a blanket of prayer here as are you and your family. Please do keep us posted. Lifting you to the Father.

  6. I'm sorry the news wasn't better. Such a hard thing to deal with, that cancer. I'll be praying for your family. Keep us posted!

  7. Oh Vee, there are so many feelings I have for you at this time. Thank God (literally) for your wonderful husband, praying with you both. It's hard at this time to keep calm but that is the best attitude to help your mother bring down the stress level.

    As for the caregivers....... you know, I hear people innocently spouting platitudes about how terrific and wonderful the caregivers are, without really understanding the realities of the situation. Yes, the stress of caring for someone is extremely difficult, frustrating, draining, depressing and downright hard. Daily hard, 24 hrs a day hard. It's depressing to see someone deteriorate slowly and not be able to do anything about it. Frustrating to deal with doctors and medical personnel who don't take your concerns seriously. Angry because family members who SHOULD be involved make themselves absent.

    Phew...did I cover it all? I hope your mother can find some way to take care of herself because she's going to need to be in a good frame of mind for what comes next in her treatment.

    I'm praying for all of you.

  8. Sorry to hear of your mother's health concerns. She, you and your family will be in my prayers as you start this adventure into the unknown. How comforting to know that He knows it all and is there every step of the way. What a blessing it is to have a husband so filled with love and care and prayer.

  9. Oh my Dear, I am so sorry for this sad news. For your Mom and for you and for your whole family. -sigh-

    Oh yes, such truth you tell us. That caregivers must take care of themselves too. Or their good {care giving} intentions may be dashed. And they themselves, be in need of care. Oh sigh...

    And please, will you remember this? Please...

    And you do with your blog, exactly as it is right for you. That's what our blog is. It's to be done, exactly as we have need to do it.

    Gentle hugs,
    'Aunt Amelia'

  10. I am so deeply sorry for this news. I will pray for each of you. yes plese do keep us updated. We love you and want to be there for you all every step of the way...Hugs...m.

  11. God be with you and your family at this time Vee

  12. Oh Vee...so sorry to hear about your mom. The dreaded "C" word is not good news. I will be keeping you...your mom in my prayers.

  13. Oh Vee, I am so sorry to hear about your mom!!
    I will add my prayers for your mom, you and all your family.

  14. I will keep your mom and you in my prayers.

  15. Hello, Its my first visit to your blog so I hope you dont mind me commenting on such a personal post. Im very sorry to read about your mum. We have been through this illness twice in our family so I know how you must all be feeling. Try to stay as positive as you can. Best Wishes X

  16. Oh Vee, I am so sorry to hear about your Mom's illness. Please know that I will be keeping her and your family in our prayers!!!

  17. Oh, Dear Sweet Vee. I am so sorry to hear about your mother. Please know that she, your family, and the medical personnel are in our prayers. Please keep us updated. Know, that you have friends everywhere praying for you.

  18. I am truly sorry to hear your sad news today, Vee. I will keep your dear Mom and you in my prayers.

  19. I do pray for healing for your dear mom.

    It's amazing what stress can do. I've been told developing Juvenile Diabetes was most likely brought on by the intense stress I was going through for a couple of years.

    What a great daughter you are, I know you are going to be an encouragement for her.

  20. First I have to say again how much I enjoy your Sunday posts. They are so beautiful and inspiring. Thank you so much.
    I'm so sorry to hear about your mother being ill. Yes, it's true stress can cause or at least contribute to disease. I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers. What a wonderful husband you have ♥

  21. Hi Vee,
    I am so sorry to hear of this news, I will put your mother and your family on my prayer list.
    What a wonderful husband you have , I was so touched by him coming in and holding her hand and praying. I know this gave her so much comfort..
    Blessings to you and your family.

  22. Vee, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom illness. I have always thought that stress was a huge contributor to any number of illnesses. I will keep your Mom and your family in my prayers and you do what you want with your blog. I'm sure we'd all like to be updated.


  23. A heartfelt "thank you" for all your kind comments. Each and every one blessed me and one day soon, I'll share them with her as well. I know that she will be touched by them, too. She went forward for healing prayer at church yesterday and was encouraged by her church family. She kept busy, busy, busy all weekend with visitors and said that it helped her not to think about herself. Hmmm...

  24. I'm sorry about your mother's diagnosis. My prayers are with her --- and you as well. I remember when my own mother received such not good news --- it was a difficult time, but the prayers of many held us up. God works all things to His glory.


  25. Oh no---I'm so sorry to read this sad news, Vee. I can't imagine how you feel right now ...it is always so unexpected and devastating to think of losing our parents, no matter how old we are, and the fact that your Mom is still her Mom's main caregiver adds to the dilemma of treatment. I will join you in prayer for healing, and the strength to fight a good battle and win! There are so many advanced treatments right now that can delay or cure..remember the magazine Cure.com I blogged about? Send for it and start exploring treatment options...their web site has wonderful links.

    Hugs, Pat


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