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Wednesday, November 14, 2007

The Gift of Goodbye



And the rip of packing tape can be heard in the land...

Some days are better than others. Today is a better day. Not good. Just better. I have been packing up a few things that have been boxed and covered in the addition. These were mostly decorative items that I hoped to reintroduce in the new space. As it turns out, they're off to other new spaces.

Anyway, in the decluttering process thanks to FlyLady (see sidebar), I found an essay by T.D. Jakes. I love this essay and printed it off several years ago. It can be found in numerous places on the net with a simple bit of Googling. Clicking on the words will take you to T.D. Jakes' web site. Here is the essay in its entirety:


There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

LET THEM GO!

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of goodbye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in goodbye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

LET THEM GO!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...

LET THEM GO!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...

LET THEM GO!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth...

LET THEM GO!

If someone has angered you...

LET THEM GO!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge...

LET THEM GO!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction...

LET THEM GO!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents...

LET THEM GO!

If you have a bad attitude...

LET THEM GO!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...

LET THEM GO!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.......

LET THEM GO!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves...

LET THEM GO!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed...

LET THEM GO!

Get Right or Get Left, think about it, and then...

LET THEM GO!
~T.D. Jakes

(I'm not letting this picture go...)

6 comments:

  1. Vee! I love the essay by T.D. Jakes!! Thank you for sharing such wise words with us! I've just gotten totally caught up on your blog and I've enjoyed it, as I always do!

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  2. This is very good and wise, thanks for taking the time to post the whole essay.
    I wonder where all the boxes are going?
    You have some nice plates in your last post.
    For my story Grace Kelly could have played me as I was always told I looked like her, but sadly she is dead. Maybe Alan Ladd could have played Alan as he was my favourite film star when I was young. Think he might be dead too.!!
    No, I did not keep a diary nor a journal I just have always had a good memory for events of the past,especially when I sit down and concentrate on them. I am also a very 'detail' person so I guess that helps.

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  3. FANTASTIC words!! Thank you!

    And I'm very glad that today was 'better.' Never look down on 'better.' It's glorious. It's wonderful. It's... well, it's not 'worse,' and that in itself, is pretty dern-great! :-)))

    Hugs to you,
    Mari-Nanci

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  4. Wow Vee...I love T D Jakes, and I think that is my favorite of the essays...I think it pertains to so much in our lives, the wisdom is so simple. Thanks for reminding me.
    hugs
    Sandi

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  5. We love FLY Lady....she is the very best! All of her flybabies are wonderful, too! Great essay....words to live by!

    smiles, kari and kijsa

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  6. What a wonderful essay. Truer words were never spoke!
    I am sensing you are a very wise woman, Vee! ;)

    xo

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