A Haven for Vee

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Sisters: You Can't Live With Them and You Can't Live Without Them

Tonight my sister told me that the man she met on a blind date in July will be marrying her in January.

I'm afraid that I didn't take it very well. Said some rotten things that I can't take back. Oh what the flip, I don't even want to take them back...not tonight. Doubt that morning will change my mind much.

I told her that, if I had known that this would happen back on that cold February night in 2001, I would never have let her in. That's no lie; I wouldn't have. In true tit for tat fashion, she told me that if she had known, she wouldn't have moved in either.

Anyway, it has been a miserable four months since that July day when she hopped in his truck and took off and I thought as fear gripped me: I may never see her again! I mean, what mature woman hops in a stranger's truck and takes off? It really was so unlike her.

And what does all this have to do with me? It's like this, when sis arrived, I owned this wee, little house with a small mortgage and small payments. Sis has bigger ideas than I. She's done a lot of things, which were all very nice when we thought that this was what our lives would be...two sisters pulling together to share a home and a life. Those "bigger ideas" resulted in a new mortgage with killer payments. I won't be able to hang on here. That and I've lost my sister, too.


  1. "...new mortgage with killer payments. I won't be able to hang on here."

    Good heavens!!! I am flabergasted at this! And I hurt, for you. Even though it's obvious that your sister does not.

    This is ... well, I will not say in a comment here, what I would say to that sister. No, I will not say it here. But point me to her, and I would gladly speak my mind.

    For she is showing herself to be an undisciplined brat!!!! She bounces into your home... instigates stuff which adds to the mortgage... and runs off. Unbelieveable! Grrrrrrrrrr....


  2. Oh, infuriating! I don't blame you for being angry. And worried for everyone involved.

    I'm concerned for you both.

  3. Oh Vee...if I were in your shoes I would pray on it....often...I am so sorry...I hope that it really doesn't put you in a bad spot....maybe after the smoke clears the two of you can have a serious chat and she can understand what kind of a position you are/will be in as a result of her actions?? I will include you in my prayers and I do hope things get better between the two of you.

  4. Hi Vee,
    First off, I just wanted you to know how much I appreciate all the nice comments you leave for me on my blog. I truly appreciate them!

    I am so sorry for this huge disappointment and let-down you have just suffered. I can only imagine how much it must hurt. I remember that growing up, my sister promised me we would share an apartment in a great city somewhere and enjoy living the single life for awhile. Then, lo and behold, my sister met her future husband (they were both still in their teens), and they were never apart after that. I remember the feelings of abandonment and (and yes, resentment)...and yet compared to you, I had so little at stake. I'm sure for you, it is like seeing your dreams go up in smoke, and yet you have as little say in the matter as I did back then!

    I hope that somehow, this will work out for you both...maybe you could convince her to have a long engagement..??? It sounds like an awfully impulsive move for your sister!

    Hugs to you,

  5. How sad for you. That doesnot sound good at all. Trust you are able to sort things out. I do not have a sister but did have 4 brothers.

  6. Did you both take a pledge of celibacy &/or promise to remain spinsters & live together for the rest of your lives?

    Before increasing your mortgage, did you consider the possibility that one of you could marry or for any other reason move out?

  7. First of all, Bronwyn, thank you for visiting my little blog. I hope to visit yours by day's end.

    Nah, we certainly didn't take a vow of celibacy, but I would have liked more of an exit strategy than we had. (Quite frankly, the two months' head's up just in advance of two major holidays has me quite frazzled.) Perhaps I can serve as an example of how NOT to do things.


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